I can’t even…Self Care for Grief

This past week has been a tough one for me  and for the country.

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Grief and trauma are difficult to discuss, but we must do so if we are to heal. Here are a few self-care tips for dealing with grief.

Be free.



So, What is Stress?

Everyone knows what stress is right?  Stress is that thing..that hideous monster..that keeps things from being…well, perfect.

  • Have a huge presentation at 8 a.m the next morning? Well, stress sneaks in and sabotages your laptop at 9:30 p.m. so you’ll have to type the whole thing over!
  • Day of the social event of the season?  Well, your lovely daughter going to start vomiting all over the place!
  • Finally splurged on that badass new car? Don’t worry! You’ll get laid off next month!

Ah, stress! You suck.

But what about getting married, getting a promotion or adopting a puppy? Yes, these wonderful, happy events are also stress-provoking.  Weird right?  I know.

Let’s talk.

Stress has always been difficult to describe, but like pornography – you know it when you see it..or feel it I guess.

In fact, Dr. Hans Selye, who pioneered stress research during the 1930’s, described it as, the non-specific response of the body to any demand for change.” So there you have it. 

 Change + Response = Stress

I know.  it’s a really simple equation given the havoc stress causes in our lives.  It can’t be this basic, but it is.  Acute stress is simply our response to change.  This can be a physical, mental or emotional change. It can be positive or negative,  actual or perceived.  But it is still simply a change.

Now, I’m not a mathematician, but this really is the easiest way to illustrate the power we have over stress in our lives.

Change is given.  It is going to happen, and as long as we are alive, we are going to experience change. But we can manage our response to change.  

So, is this where the journey to peace begins? Let’s see!