According to the American Psychological Association, there is good and bad stress, known respectively as Eustress (good) and Distress. Good stress stands alone while Distress can be Acute, Episodic, and Chronic. I’ll cover Distress in a separate post.
Stress is the body’s response to change
Eustress is what is referred to as positive stress. It is a short-term response that improves performance and is within the range of a person’s coping skills.
Excitement, Focus, Drive, Accomplishment, Kicking Ass, Taking Names.
Getting a puppy
Getting a promotion at work
Starting a new business
Falling in love
Going on a vacation
Starting a new project
Ok..so that’s it for positive stress. Pretty easy right? Distress or negative stress is much more complex and can lead to serious health problems. But we’ll discuss that in Part Two.
So, I’ve been writing this blog for a couple of months now trying to document *un-stressing* my life as it were. I’ve written a few posts on the issue directly, but I’m sure you have noticed plenty of photographs, doodles and dog pics. I assure you; however, there is much work going in real life.
I’m just trying to determine how to present what I am learning as I go and document any resulting personal discoveries. I feel like there is so much I want to discuss, but there are a few things I must address first.
I’ve studied and used stress management techniques for many years. They have indeed helped me manage my stress-related symptoms, but I want to do something more with this site.
I want to find the taproot of my stress and pull it out. It’s a lofty goal I know, but that is my target. And I have to tell you; this is really hard work. Over the past few months, I’ve been researching stress; it impacts on the body and mind, and I’ve even completed a comprehensive stress assessment on myself. I’ll write a more detailed post about that later.
But I must say, I’ve had to face some hard truths about myself and how much control I abdicate in my own life. I needed some time to process that. But this is a positive discovery. It stands to reason, if I am giving away my control, then I can take it back.
So here I sit, trying to muster up the courage to do what I promised: pull back the curtain and share my journey of self-discovery as I root out the underlying factors that keep bound in stress.
The next couple of posts may be a bit academic, but they will serve as a reference point for subsequent posts like my assessment results, and where I go from there.
Today was lovely, and it was yellow. Vibrant, soft, electrifying, warm, and worn. The color yellow grabbed hold of me and didn’t let go. Taking pictures is a balm for my soul and is one of my favorite stress management techniques.
I feel overwhelming shame about my relationship with money. It is one of my big three stressors. Just thinking about it causes me incredible anxiety. I feel incredibly stupid when I’m seeking help from others, and they say things like, “all you have to do…” Talk about stress!
But this video posted on the Be Like Water blog helped me understand why controlling my spending is such a challenge and how I can overcome it. It suggests using cash as my go-to method of payment, stop eating out, and eliminating purchases with no long-term benefit (Starbucks tea, pad thai, Ohh….what is that shiny new thing!!)
I have started saving. I’ve signed up for DigitandAcorns, which help me save an invest automatically.It’s very low stress and gives me confidence that I can really do this thing!
Digit is a pretty simple savings app. It take a couple of dollars out of my account randomly throughout the month and puts it into a separate account. I love the regular text alerts as well as the option to save more or less. I can get it back if I need it of course, and they guarantee that they will not overdraft my account. It actually made me pretty excited about saving.
Acorns, an investment tool, is a little different. For each purchase I make, it takes the change and rounds it to the next dollar, and when it reaches five dollars, it pulls the money from my account and invests it. Now, this app really helped me see how much money I was spending! It seemed like every time I turned around; it was taking money out! But like Digit, you can withdraw money from it as well.
My goal, of course, is not to make any withdrawals. Instead, I want to change my spending habits. I AM changing my spending habits.
The psychological factors that encourage people to waste their hard earned wealth and a hidden (and enormous) benefit of precious metals ownership. This is a great video about how we all use our money and how advertising affects us on our decisions on purchasing goods or services.
I stumbled across this list this morning while I was inspecting the internet for leaks. His Holiness the Dalai Lama offers some pretty awesome guidelines for living a fruitful life. What a remarkable man. The more I learn about him, the more I admire him.